Comments on: Announcing Your Adoption Decision, Who Should You Tell?

By: Chelsea

Chelsea — Tue, 01 Feb 2011 03:05:21 +0000

Thank you for putting this post together! My husband and I were all set to become foster parents when we learned of 3 little girls who need a permeant home. We have no idea if all the pieces will come together so we feel like it would be best not to tell our families until we have some guarantee that this huge life change is really going to happen. I’m also apprehensive that people will think adopting 3 children all at once is crazy and instead of being happy and supportive, they will only bring more stress into an already stressful time for us. It’s nice to hear how others have dealt with this type of news - thanks for sharing both sides!

By: Danielle I. Pennel

Danielle I. Pennel — Tue, 19 May 2009 15:29:47 +0000

I know of others who have done the same. It’s a great way to get out all of the information you want to convey without being interupted. You could talk about the reasons you chose adoption (such as: infertility treatments too expensive or too emotionally hard). You could discuss the route of adoption you have chosen and why (such as: We really want to experience a newborn so we are pursuing domestic adoption). It couldn’t hurt to add in some myths that you think your family may be thinking about adoption and give the actual facts. The Adoptive Families website has some classic articles that would helpful and also a section for “reluctant” familiy members full of personal stories.
There is also a great book you can recommend to them that is written for family and friends of those adopting called “Adoption is a Family Affair” by Patricia Johnson. It covers all the correct Adoption lingo, what they should and should not ask you and what the adoption process involves.
Leave your letter open to questions from them because odds are they’ll want to talk to you. I hope you find plenty of joy and support from your family when you announce your exciting decision.
Good luck!

By: Brian

Brian — Sat, 16 May 2009 00:25:12 +0000

i would like an adoption letter or somthing to write to tell family mebers that adoption was the best choice