Nowadays families come together in different ways. Due to divorce, remarriage, adoption, grandparents as primary caregivers, same-sex partners and other configurations there is no longer one set idea of what a “family” should look like. With adoption you can have some control over this. By being selective with your child’s country of birth and their race, you can have a good picture in your mind of what your family will look like.
Just as parents of biological children expect that their children will look similar to one another, some adoptive parents want the same. It’s not uncommon for some adoptive parents, including myself, to only seek out children of similar racial background in order for them all to “match” one another. By using the word “match” I only mean the children will share similar physical characteristics. This may sound like an odd thing to be concerned about to someone outside of the adoption community. I found it was one small way to bring some normalcy to my family formed through adoption which is anything but a normal process.
