Comments on: Dealing with a Failed Adoption

By: Freida

Freida — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 21:43:09 +0000

My husband and I just experienced a failed adoption. Your story is encouraging. We truly believe that we are meant to be parents and that maybe this wasn’t the child we were suppose to raise. I am still in the maybe they will call and ask us to parent the baby stage, especially since the BF has contacted the adoption agency three times to state he believes they made a mistake and wanted to go forward with the adoption (it has only been five days since the disruption). We have decided to give it a few weeks and if there is no change we will begin the process again.

By: dana

dana — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 16:27:35 +0000

I’m so happy it worked out for you. It seems like every week there is a failed adoption in the news. These cases involve birth fathers wanting to raise their child and everyone else saying no. The BF’s receive their children back when they are 2, 3, 4, 7, etc. It’s hard to give up a child, but it is far better when they are a newborn than when are a little person.

By: Heidi

Heidi — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 02:10:17 +0000

Thanks for sharing your story. We’ve been waiting to be chosen for 14+ months and have finally been in contact with a potential birthmother who’s due in January. However we’ve now had almost two weeks of silence from her end and I’m afraid it’s not going to work out. It’s comforting to hear others’ stories and I’m glad yours has a happy ending.

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By: Meredith

Meredith — Thu, 06 Oct 2011 11:15:29 +0000

Congratulations on your successful adoptions.

Any advice for couple that only experienced failed adoptions?

We have four and we cannot shake the feeling that with all the failed infertility treatments and failed adoptions that we are broken beyond repair. We even are questioning if our marriage is a mistake. Just so much pain and suffering all due to our marriage.

By: Monica

Monica — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 03:24:34 +0000

Thank you for sharing this story. As I read each line, your emotions echoed mine almost exactly. We just experienced a failed adoption 2 days ago. Like you, there were no red flags and everything seemed to be going fine. Then, we received a call that she had gone to the hospital and decided to keep the baby. No one saw it coming.

Like you, we have experienced the pain of miscarriage. The pain of this failed adoption, while not one of the death of a child, is hard to articulate. Thank you for being so candid about your experience. We are right in the middle of this, but we are hopeful for the future as we trust our Lord Jesus Christ for the baby He will bring into our family as we try again.

By: donna

donna — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 19:14:20 +0000

Thanks very much for that story…My husband and I recently went through a failed adoption and are devastated. I am going through all of those emotions right now.

IT is defintely hard to keep a positive outlook and trust anyone. I hope in time I can do that again.

Thanks so much for your encouraging story.

By: Patti

Patti — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 01:57:12 +0000

I Love this story! Since we are at the end stretch of becoming active with a domestic agency and I really needed this right now!! I have been fearing this possibility alot lately, this gave me the inspiration to not give up and take the leap of faith. I know eventually we will find that baby that is meant to be ours! Thank You Danielle for sharing these amazing stories with us!