http://www.threeyellowroses.com/2009/07/11/a-home-study-of-emotions/ All about Adoption, Support and Information Sun, 05 Feb 2012 12:08:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 http://www.threeyellowroses.com/2009/07/11/a-home-study-of-emotions/comment-page-1/#comment-4047 Danielle I. Pennel Wed, 03 Mar 2010 23:06:17 +0000 http://www.threeyellowroses.com/?p=419#comment-4047 Gianna, I like what you said about the home study helping you know what you should be preparing for while you wait to adopt. Unfortunately, home studies expire. In most states they are only good for a year. So if you think it will be two years before your adoption process will begin, I’d wait on that paperwork. The ONLY time I have ever heard of anyone “failing” a homestudy was when the couple lies about something. Maybe they said they had not been arrested but their background check shows something different. The social worker is not trying to “fail” you. If something is concerning to them then they’ll discuss it with you. Maybe they can counsel you on it or refer you to other resources. At this point I think the best thing you can do is talk to those who have adopted (like at an adoption support meeting), make an appt. with an adoption social worker to discuss your questions/concerns, and read. I recommend http://www.adoptivefamilies.com for useful articles. A good online community is http://www.adoptivefamiliescircle.com which I think has an entire forum for home studies and sections for those thinking of adopting. There are plenty of resources out there to help you when you ARE ready to begin your adoption journey! Gianna, I like what you said about the home study helping you know what you should be preparing for while you wait to adopt. Unfortunately, home studies expire. In most states they are only good for a year. So if you think it will be two years before your adoption process will begin, I’d wait on that paperwork.
The ONLY time I have ever heard of anyone “failing” a homestudy was when the couple lies about something. Maybe they said they had not been arrested but their background check shows something different. The social worker is not trying to “fail” you. If something is concerning to them then they’ll discuss it with you. Maybe they can counsel you on it or refer you to other resources.
At this point I think the best thing you can do is talk to those who have adopted (like at an adoption support meeting), make an appt. with an adoption social worker to discuss your questions/concerns, and read. I recommend http://www.adoptivefamilies.com for useful articles. A good online community is http://www.adoptivefamiliescircle.com which I think has an entire forum for home studies and sections for those thinking of adopting.
There are plenty of resources out there to help you when you ARE ready to begin your adoption journey!

]]> http://www.threeyellowroses.com/2009/07/11/a-home-study-of-emotions/comment-page-1/#comment-4043 Gianna Wed, 03 Mar 2010 15:26:52 +0000 http://www.threeyellowroses.com/?p=419#comment-4043 My husband and I know we want to adopt, but we aren't quite ready yet (financially). However, when reading about home studies, they seem like they could be helpful in telling us how we can be prepared. If we had a home study done, and we passed, then we feel we would be ahead of the game for when the time comes (probably 2 years). But if we fail, will they tell us why and allow us to try again later, or is it like a fail for life? My husband and I know we want to adopt, but we aren’t quite ready yet (financially). However, when reading about home studies, they seem like they could be helpful in telling us how we can be prepared. If we had a home study done, and we passed, then we feel we would be ahead of the game for when the time comes (probably 2 years). But if we fail, will they tell us why and allow us to try again later, or is it like a fail for life?

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