Monthly Archives: August 2009

“Open” Adoptions Come in Many Varieties, and Can Change With Time

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When people consider adopting domestically for an infant, one of their first concerns surrounds the Birthparents.  I have heard many people in my Adoption Support Group state that they do not want to “co-parent” with anyone besides their spouse or partner.  People also don’t want to be committed to sending letters and pictures and maybe even have phone calls or visits with the Birthparents.  People researching adoption hear the term “open adoption” and assume this openness is just so the Birthparents can be an intrusive part of the adoptive family’s life.

Open Adoption” is actually used to describe a wide spectrum of sharing identifying information between the Birthparents and the adoptive parents.  On one end of the spectrum is when everyone knows each other’s first names and that is it.  They may never meet each other.  The other end of the “open adoption” spectrum is when there is little to no information hidden between everyone.  The Birthparents could be present for family functions, call the adoptive family directly and are informed of everything that happens in the child’s life. Continue reading “Open” Adoptions Come in Many Varieties, and Can Change With Time

As Adoptive Parents, How Much on Naming the Baby Should be Given to the Birthparents?

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A person’s name is a very important part of their identity. Some people even believe that their name shapes their personality. If you are a “Maghnus” you’ll have a large strong personality as a “Tucker” may be a more laid back type of person. Whichever comes first, the name or the personality, selecting a name for your child can be a difficult decision. Most couples only have to consider the input from each other when whittling down their list of potential names.

When you decide to adopt a child there is a lot more thought put into what to name your child. You must consider if you want to keep their original name, “Americanize” their original name, select a name consistent with their ethnicity, consult with the Birthparents to find a name everyone is happy with, combine names to create new ones, or choose a name that you always wanted.

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