Comments on: Helpful Advice?

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 00:49:58 +0000

I’m using it - “accidentally fill out paperwork” - perfect!

Even my *OB* used this line on me! I was like, ‘no, not you! Please don’t!’ She hasn’t been my OB that long, God bless her, but after 3 years of infertility treatment and 2 miscarriages, I really didn’t need to hear that - from her.

We’re in the midst of our homestudy paperwork now. It’s a little daunting, but we’ll get there.

By: Maru

Maru — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 20:43:12 +0000

Do people really think adoption is the cure for infertility???

“Accidentally fill out paperwork.” Brilliant! I’m going to use it!

I found your blog through Adoptive Families. Love it!

By: LifesGood

LifesGood — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 21:47:53 +0000

We just filled out our application and in telling people that we’re working on adopting my favorite is the “Wow, we thought you’d try to have your own.” Really? I’m oh so tempted just to blurt out “I didn’t know we could make them ourselves!”

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 19:52:49 +0000

Now that we have our daughter home, everyone is constantly telling us how much she looks like the two of us, which I know is them trying to find some way of connecting her to us, but she already is without having to look like us. My comment lately about her looks is that we couldn’t have done it better ourselves.

I love the “accidentally fill out paperwork” line, that’s classic. I think my biggest FEAR is becoming the cliche, I love our daughter so much, and couldn’t imagine our family any other way right now. If we had gotten pregnant, we wouldn’t have her, and that just wouldn’t do.

By: Karen

Karen — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 04:56:37 +0000

Another great Article! When I was waiting (particularly for my 2nd child) and people would give the ol’ “now you’ll get pregnant” line… if I was feeling good humored I’d blurt out, “Gosh, I HOPE not!!!” It was always met with a very shocked reaction, that I secretly loved.

I always struggled with that - why is it that people think those who are waiting to adopt REALLY hope they’ll get pregnant instead. For us, nothing could have been further from the truth. Now I just tell them, “have you MET our two fabulous kids? How could WE ever make anyone more perfect than them?”

By: Hafiz

Hafiz — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 04:32:37 +0000

That’s really brilliant. Accidentally fill out paperwork.

My mother would constantly say the same thing over and over to us because the old urban myth actually happened to her neighbor. She adopted and she got pregnant right after finalization. We hated that story but for her, that was the only family she knew that went through adoption. Still drives us nuts to hear about it…

By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 03:05:28 +0000

AMEN! We are toying with the idea of returning to FertilityCare for the purpose of fixing the weirdness in my cycles. It is an extensive, expensive process that involves all kinds of hormonal evaluation, as wall as laparoscopy and other surgical processes to finally diagnose the problem so it can be fixed. We are not counting on getting pregnant (and are, in fact, “waiting” for baby #2 through adoption). But if we did clear up the problem and become pregnant, I can only imagine the comments. “Boy, were you surprised? You know what they say about adoption and pregnancy! Who knew that all you had to do is adopt a couple of kids to get pregnant?” I can only imagine the kind of retorts I would come up with for THAT. People say really, really stupid things.