http://www.threeyellowroses.com/2010/04/29/questioning-your-choices/ All about Adoption, Support and Information Sun, 05 Feb 2012 12:07:31 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 http://www.threeyellowroses.com/2010/04/29/questioning-your-choices/comment-page-1/#comment-4946 Danielle I. Pennel Mon, 12 Jul 2010 14:44:15 +0000 http://www.threeyellowroses.com/?p=665#comment-4946 Thank you so much for your insightful comments. You are right in every way to point this out to me. I truly hope I did not offend you. I do know that "Hispanic" includes people of all different skin tones and hair and eye colors. I guess I use the term "dark skinned" because two of my children fall into that category and therefore they are the ones I hear the comments about. My daughter though is lighter skinned than I (and I'm blonde/blue eyed) and her hair is brown with red and some blond streaks throughout it. Most people never think she's Hispanic but instead Russian. Personally I think she has some Native American blood in her mixed with her Mexican heritage. So I SHOULD know what you said and will respect that in future writings. I appreciate being called out on it. And along the lines of you adopting a "Hispanic" child and he/she not looking like you, I have seen that often from my friends who adopt from Russia. People think that the children from Russia will be fair skinned but most of the children I know from there are very, very Asian looking. Blows away the stereotype in people's minds. Good luck to you in your Adoption Journey! Thank you so much for your insightful comments. You are right in every way to point this out to me. I truly hope I did not offend you.
I do know that “Hispanic” includes people of all different skin tones and hair and eye colors. I guess I use the term “dark skinned” because two of my children fall into that category and therefore they are the ones I hear the comments about. My daughter though is lighter skinned than I (and I’m blonde/blue eyed) and her hair is brown with red and some blond streaks throughout it. Most people never think she’s Hispanic but instead Russian. Personally I think she has some Native American blood in her mixed with her Mexican heritage.
So I SHOULD know what you said and will respect that in future writings. I appreciate being called out on it.
And along the lines of you adopting a “Hispanic” child and he/she not looking like you, I have seen that often from my friends who adopt from Russia. People think that the children from Russia will be fair skinned but most of the children I know from there are very, very Asian looking. Blows away the stereotype in people’s minds.
Good luck to you in your Adoption Journey!

]]> http://www.threeyellowroses.com/2010/04/29/questioning-your-choices/comment-page-1/#comment-4944 rose Mon, 12 Jul 2010 02:46:36 +0000 http://www.threeyellowroses.com/?p=665#comment-4944 I just want to point out that you always refer to hispanic children as brown skinned, and I am wondering why. I live and work in a predominantly hispanic area, and the number of brown skinned people is possibly about 50%. This is in a community made up of about 90% hispanic people, among which are myself and my spouse. In considering adoption, we have also faced the possibility of having children that don't look like us, even if we choose hispanic children. We are both light skinned, with dark curly hair and brown eyes, and have extended family on both sides that is a lot fairer than us with straight hair and green or gray eyes, or similar to us but with darker hair or whatever. So our future adopted children could be a lot lighter than us, or a lot darker, but we decided that culturally they will be like us, and used that to make our decision. I only point this out because you may not be realizing that you are stereotyping, and that your children may at some point resent that. It is not my intention to judge or attack you, just to point out something you may not be aware of. I just want to point out that you always refer to hispanic children as brown skinned, and I am wondering why. I live and work in a predominantly hispanic area, and the number of brown skinned people is possibly about 50%. This is in a community made up of about 90% hispanic people, among which are myself and my spouse. In considering adoption, we have also faced the possibility of having children that don’t look like us, even if we choose hispanic children. We are both light skinned, with dark curly hair and brown eyes, and have extended family on both sides that is a lot fairer than us with straight hair and green or gray eyes, or similar to us but with darker hair or whatever. So our future adopted children could be a lot lighter than us, or a lot darker, but we decided that culturally they will be like us, and used that to make our decision. I only point this out because you may not be realizing that you are stereotyping, and that your children may at some point resent that. It is not my intention to judge or attack you, just to point out something you may not be aware of.

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